that's becuz u see the game as a place to be the first.
Well most of us do too, and I can't say I don't.
But all the more, I enjoy talking with my friends than ruling the world. Kids or not, so wat? My first leader was a 13-year-old guy (well he wasn't 13 then) but it was tons of fun there. We were 3rd but killed and dropped very bad to the point of no return. However I still enjoyed the game (after we're killed).
It's hard to be first, yes, it needs dedication and sometimes luck too. But it's not hard to enjoy the game. I must say for over 6 months playing this game I haven't won once. The highest alliance rank I've been at the end of the era was 3rd (though I received the 2nd alliance rewards

, maybe I'm 2nd, but oh well). And personal rank is 17.
However, it's not hard to enjoy the game, wat u need is some talkative guys in ur team. Someone that will log in the alliance chat and chat all the way till he log out. This game is a place to make friends also, "internet friends" as Konvict on F4 said

If u see this game as a "serious" game where u must be the first, then u should spend time and money on it. Just like every other online games. U can't log in 1 hours a day, spend nothing and get in the top list.